JOY TO YOUR CHILD.
When we speak of the happiness of their children, will inevitably draw on the traditions and ideas, which live
in us adults. They, of course, define their own views on the luck of us all. Hence the difference in means and methods.
The fact that you can not break into it, to adopt harsh means of violence - it is clear. Here are the keys must be chosen to help the child itself to reveal itself and be realized - without which the happiness out of the question?
Sown in the soul of the child at least a tiny, but a burning need for a useful activity - only in this case, the child may become self-
irresistible desire.
Philosophers, psychologists, educators and social scientists agree on one thing: the base of the human "I" are the needs of their combination, the synthesis of contradictory desires, motives, resistance, pleasure and pain, disappointment and hope. Needs that are produced with the help of our own child, his efforts, his own tension. Requirements, which outline dorisovyvat personality draws the main lines of human behavior, determine the child's relationship to themselves, their loved ones, to other. Requirements that connect children's activity with a good attitude to people, human joy to work, self-disclosure with advanced forms of communication.
If a child is in need of superseded the need for another person - the inevitable emergence of self-love.
If you need another person, in others dampen interest in its own uniqueness, to its own "self" - is depersonalization of man, disappears the valuable principle, which leads to the development of talents and abilities.
If the interest to yourself and the power of self-affirmation will dominate in the actions of our pets - it is fraught with the emergence of different and very unpleasant properties: self-centeredness, maladjustment to life, inactive reverie and so n.
And only in the constant conjunction of these three requirements - to work in a man in self-improvement - can enrich each other.
But it is not hidden if there is one indispensable condition:
child can grow happily just a happy family?
If so, to what extent is our joy of parenthood, defines happiness of the child? |