Thus, a private educational question of what to put in the first place - the severity or kindness, divided the people (and always has been) on the two opposing camps. The first - the supporters of humanism - the claim that only in an atmosphere of kindness can be done real education. They always belonged to Spock. He wrote in his book "Baby and Child Care" that the children most of all need love devoted parents, that children who are criminals, suffered not from a lack of punishment, but from lack of love that every child - personality.
Part of teachers and parents prefer the rigor and stringent requirements. If you have chosen a strict style of parenting, you have to be consistent in this manner. Moderate severity in terms of the requirements of good manners, unquestioning obedience, neatness, execution mode, etc., The child will not cause harm if the parents' actions are based on kindness and if conditions are created so that children grow up happy and sociable. But there are other, an authoritarian severity, when the parents are rude to the child when they are constantly dissatisfied, suspicious, do not discount age and individual differences. In such circumstances, the child grows faint-hearted, cruel man, or colorless.
Severity, based on the goodness and severity, based on the irritability, intolerance, and brutality. Last and forms of ill people, and sometimes angry offender.
It's not that parents prefer the ease of use and do not insist on absolute obedience and patience. More importantly - the child he loved people, and this will help educate sociable and considerate to others human ... The softness will then give a positive result if the parents are not afraid to be firm in matters which they consider particularly important.
When parents grow up too soft annoying, spoiled kids, it does not because the parents demanded little from their children, although it is not excluded, but because they are embarrassed or afraid to insist on their demands, or because they unconsciously encouraged
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